Self-compassion can sound like Self-pity. When I think of self-pity, I think of feeling sorry for myself. I become the victim and in consequence I am helpless, I have been hurt, taken advantage of, treated wrong, unfairly. On the other side, when I think of Self-compassion I think of grace. From this place of grace I feel seen, understood and I also feel a firm encouragement to move forward. Self-pity is like being in a hole without a possibility to get out. Self-compassion is a stair case to get out of the darkness.
For some reason, is easier to understand compassion when we think of offering it to others, but when it comes to offer it to ourselves we don’t have a clear understanding on how to get started. We may feel undeserving, self-indulgent, guilty and ashamed; however, if we don’t know how to offer compassion to ourselves how are we gonna be able to truly offer it to those who need it urgently? From this perspective, self-compassion becomes an action that serves the greater good, because when people feel happy they tend to do good. The opposite is true, hurt people hurts people. Self-compassion is a gift that benefits everyone, it lifts us all as it heals us.
Offering compassion to ourselves takes practice and is a journey of discovery as we are all different. However, once the mind is expose to a new idea that resonates it expands, opening a new path in where to cultivate new ways of being, new behaviors, a new you.
Self-compassion. A cultivational Workshop
March 16th from 12pm to 2:30pm at Barre3 Capitol Hill in Seattle. 1404 12th Ave, Seattle, WA 98122.